Ki and Ka
Ki & Ka |
Why are the observed roles of a
couple in a relationship be dependent on the approval of the society?
The modern man is standing to
re-define his role in the house. No more is he bounded by the frames of a
strict Dad, who returns home in the evening and to whom the kids rush with
their books (the typical Dil wale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge scene). He might
have become the one already waiting at home with the kids for the wife to
arrive from office, with the evening soup prepared and music playing in the
background.
A recently released Kareena
Kapoor Khan and Arjun Kapoor starrer created the buzz and got the attention of
many. It made me remember a friend of mine, who’s Dad has been staying at home
for more than fifteen years, managing the household, while his wife has been
taking care of the business. Their kids have fared well in their lives, with
one of them pursuing a management course, in a premier B-school in the nation.
So, the unconventional notion of Ki & Ka already exists in the society.
But, surely the numbers are quite a few, that they can be counted on the
fingers.
Marriages, as most things, are
often exaggerated as a phenomenon, hard to comprehend. A lady once told me that
barring 1 in 100, everyone whether man/woman wants to look great on the day of
marriage and feel the exquisite happiness in thinking that nobody else is as
presentable as them. The wait for the marriage is not for a reason; the need
for support from a man/woman in all their decisions is huge. Kids nowadays feel
that they will have those happy experiences of cuddling cheerfully ever after,
however let me pull the curtains down on that, marriage is not about that.
Marriage is a learning experience that must begin with the trust. It’s not just
a legal binding contract that sets your roles as the home-maker or bread
earner. It’s about exploring the undefined possibilities of life, while walking
with someone else. Letting each other grow and understand the strengths and
weaknesses of each other.
It's a beautiful experience to
have a partner, yet we may not consider it excessively important. In the event,
that two people wish to be together in a modern society, you'll need to abide
by the rules in the society and accordingly get married. But, why should the
roles to be played by the man and his wife in the family get characterized by
society?
Is it less demanding to be a homemaker
or a bread earner? – That’s debatable though! However terming guy in a marriage
as the house-husband is definitely not something I can digest easily. It’s only
suggestive of the thing that the lady is out of the house! They are
home-makers. Digest it my dear friends. Being a homemaker, be it a man or lady
is a ton harder in light of the fact that there is no appreciation of your endeavors
even when you are on your toes for 24*7. You knowingly or unknowingly tend to
underestimate the individual. It resembles doing some work with no
acknowledgement or without an option of anything else to pursue. Society does
not say that a man can't work at home or a lady can't work outside. It is more
about two partners who need to shoulder obligations to run their family
smoothly.
Let’s support our Ki & Ka and
know that the marriage is about being supportive and singing to the tunes of
love.
By-
Aksh Bhardwaj
FMS, Delhi
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