Why Educational Compatibility is a must for Marriage...

        

  “I read Shakespeare and my partner, well, Chetan Bhagat!” Think about a scenario like this.What would happen to a person if he or she is not allowed to talk about what interests them, what they love, what gives them shivers? Even in our mind this kind of picture disturbs us, now imagine what will happen if this becomes someone’s reality of life?

This is the story of Anamika. A well settled Bong girl, whose only dream was to start her own company. Her Resume supported her dream, but her parents couldn’t hold her hand that long. She got married to a dashing and rich businessman. The groom got involved in his family business and couldn’t study more nor did he intend to. And then started Anamika’s lifelong battle for identity. Her in in-laws couldn’t understand why their ‘bahu’ wanted to earn for her even after being from a well-to-do family? And the husband couldn’t get her thirst for going after her dreams. And in the end that bird finally left its sky and caged itself in the house.

This story was just one stint that represents many lives. And that’s why we need educational compatibility in this world. One needs to marry someone who can understand the value of dreams. What it takes to start from scratch and make it to the end. One should be supportive enough to even help professionally. And this all can only be possible with the educational compatibility. If Anamika’s husband were someone well educated he would have definitely understood her need to work for herself.

So be very cautious while choosing a partner. Think twice before making a choice. And most importantly talk it out. Share your stories, talk about what you believe in, because in the end your life depends on the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life.

By: Rajal Brahmbhatt

     IIM Amritsar

Winning Pick- Treatise- "Your Wedding Plan"

Wedding is considered to be an important phase in the human life when the individual decides to choose a partner exclusively for himself/ herself with whom he/she has to spend the life ahead. But for me, these thoughts came as early as when I was a 9 years old. Coming back home from school, I saw my mother browsing through the ostentatious wedding album of the son of our aunt (irritating) neighbour aunty (who just won’t like being called one). As expected, my mom was impressed by the bride’s jewellery and was complementing the lady that how beautiful the bride was. I happened to peek through the album, when my jaw dropped seeing the beautiful bride. Seeing my cheeks turn pink, the aunty jokingly asked my mom to find a bride for me as I too was growing older. I just giggled, to which my mom said, “Abhi waqt h iske liye! Pehle padhai to khatm krle ye na*ay^k!”. 

Well! You may judge me, but hey! -you ought to have some thoughts about your future (life) well in advance. I was too much far-sighted at that very time that I even decided who, where and how will I get married. I wanted a girl like Aishwarya Rai- Miss World, Blue eyed, elegant, beautiful, charming and the adjectives to describe her won’t just end. I first saw her in the movie “Jeans” when I was just blown away. “Wow!”- But then, there is a reality check to everything. I concentrated on my studies, had a few one sided crush on girls but didn’t get committed into a relationship because I saw many relationships around me that didn’t end up to marriage (they didn’t even last for 2 months). These thoughts made me firm on deciding that I will be getting into a relationship only when I am prepared for it and the relationship should have the potential to transform to a life time relationship a.k.a. marriage. So… I do have plans of my wedding as I stated somewhere before. I would not want to go for a traditional wedding setup wherein the families spend their life time earnings lavishly on a mere 4-5 day activity and then they are left to manage with whatever they have.  Marriages are now perceived as a status symbol which I am not in favour of and definitely would not abide by them.

I look forward to a unique way of getting married. I want to marry while I travel, because travelling is my hobby and I would want to take my better half to those places where I have always dreamt of going through my childhood but couldn’t go because of time and money constraints. Obviously, the choice of places would be in agreement with my beloved’s choice. Then I would probably be marrying with my beloved twice- firstly at a place where only both of us along with a random set of well-wishers would witness our marriage. I plan to hire a photographer to capture all the candid moments of ours unlike the crafted poses that one can expect in traditional marriages. This would be a surprising and cherishing moment for both of us. Then, I plan to conduct a simple, non-lavish marriage in presence of our parents and some of our near-dear friends. I plan to send the invitation cards to my friends and others via e-mails and text messages and specially paying visit and inviting those who aren’t in constant touch with the modern communication technology. 

As any wedding is incomplete without food so,I would want to personally ensure that the food that is being served is of the best quality and is delicious in taste. For the friends and others, the menu could be kept the same as that served in traditional marriages with some interesting and newer recipes, but for me and my beloved, I want the menu to be just the food items we like or desire and that too being cooked by our parents. I plan to have a homely dinner with my in -laws and family members together with some good gala chat. As a token of memento, I would ensure each attendee goes with a picture of us (the couple and the guest) clicked together and a personal note that I plan to write all by myself thanking them for their gracious presence.

After the ceremonies get over, I want to visit few old age homes and share my happiness and seek the blessings of elders living there. This would make my marriage complete in all aspects. Then, (with due permission from both my parents on each side) I plan to run away with my wife for a long week trip. Who says fantasies can’t be real? (Alarm rings)

By: Srinath Vasudevan
MICA
 

A SWEET WEDDING STORY

Influenced by my parents I took admission in computer engineering, my creative side got faded by my books and suffocated to death. I survived long enough through the semesters to get a job from the campus itself. The money was surely good. And my girlfriend Bina became the happiest person at that moment. At last after 4years of grinding through eight semester I had life which I liked, “We will marry soon, sharpen your cooking skills” I often pulled her leg with inane questions and discussions about marriage.
“Let the marriage happen first” she would always smirk.

Bina and I were together since school. Though it started as a random friendship none of us realized when did we became the stars of each other’s eyes. And now after 10 years of dating they finally found a reason to talk to their parents. With this job Akash knew, that his life is just about to start.

“You will marry a school teacher” my parents argued “love doesn’t pay bills, nor they make good families.” And that’s how my first meeting with my parents went. This was just one side of the story. One the other side Bina got one Rishta from a well settled US citizen. Obviously her parents got all the reasons to reject me and that’s how our proposal got rejected.

And then started our year long battle with our parents to prove our love. We weren’t naïve (as suggested by our parents) and we surely couldn’t imagine our lives without each other. Of course parents consent was important. So the decision was made, we won’t marry each other, but we won’t ever marry anyone else too. And after two years that’s the only thing that got our parents to say yes for our relationship.

I didn’t see her for two years. They say long distance doesn’t always work, I say you don’t have to make things work, and distance no matter how long it is seems too small when you are in love. I still remember her walking down the aisle, for me she was my sun, my moon, my galaxy for that matter. May be that’s how the earth feels when the rain falls on her after a long waiting. “I will always love you, no matter what” and that’s my little wedding story.

By: Rajal Brahmbhatt

     IIM Amritsar

Meeting you was FATE!

Once upon a while ,in the midst of July,

Two strangers exchanged glances and smiled!

At that time we were just classmates,

But then something happened, commonly known as fate!

Yes it was when two opposites became friends,

After the start ,their friendship never saw an end!

That bunking the class forms and important part,

When i sang to you, you are my shining star!

For even in the class we created memories to share,

We laugh till infinity and we equally do care!

That's how we came and stayed together,

That's how we became best friends forever!

By: Tanya Jain

Finding the Right Match Online is NO Longer a Myth

We all engage in relationship during our college times, but how many of us find the right person?This is not a big deal we all can get that right person but we need to keep various factors in mind. We have many ways to find a right choice while in college. The most evolving way is to sign up with any matrimonial site like Tamil marriage site, IITIIMShaadi. It’s a myth that you cannot find a right choice on social media nowadays there are many couples who met on these sites are leading a happy life together. As here you have many choices from an engineer to a professional dancer. Then start socializing as when you become social many people come to know you and vice versa. Join the co-ed sports team, dancing clubs. start volunteering this help you get to know more people, be open to the new experience. Admire the person if like his/her work,don’t be shy. Forget the phrase “ideal type”if you want you can even go for digital dates there is plenty of dating sites where you can date person of your interest online.

In fact according to a survey, many married couples in USA have met through digi-date only. Be patient and be open don’t suppress your emotions by thinking that what he/she would think .If you want to spend your life with him/her you have to be real so openly talk and express your views in-front of each other. Don’t let this impact your education in fact support and motivate each other for studying as this thing in itself creates a bond between the two. Enjoy one another's self-contentment. Let the relationship you share together validate who each of you are as individuals. Most important thing is love yourself only then you can realize your importance and find a right person to live with. Hang out with people whose company you like , if you are confused at some point do take advice of any of your good friend as friends also play a great role in our lives. If you think you got the person don’t just go mad give the relation some time ,be patient talk to him share your area of interest and see till what extend does your interest match, see if there is a mutual understanding between you two then share your long time goals with him and also ask his/hers too. Never ignore your guts. If you feel something is wrong with your relationship, end it right away. Do as early as the starting stage of the relationship so you don't develop a bad one. If you go with all these ways then bingo you are going to have a right person with you.

By-

Khiyati Verma

Banasthali Vidyapeeth